Can I take a moment to talk about LOVE? That’s right, LOVE. What is it? What does LOVE have to do with it? Merriam-Webster dictionary defines LOVE is:
- strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
- attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers
- affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
- unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another a
- person’s adoration of GodLove is powerful
It drives us. It determines how we view and treat ourselves and others. I am sure you are saying, What? It’s true if you truly love yourself you will take care of YOU. I don’t just mean look good. This means consciously constantly work at being a better YOU, ensuring that you are sound spiritually, emotionally, and physically just to name a few areas.
I am so grateful for the few people that I call friends. They love me enough to challenge my way of thinking about things when situations arise. They correct me when I am wrong. Yes, I am wrong sometimes. They forgive me when I unintentionally offend them. Why, why do they do these things? Because they LOVE me. They care about me. Our friendship is valuable to them and to me as well.
Love determines how you treat others
I love mankind. Therefore, my natural modus operandi is to treat mankind with dignity and respect regardless of whether I agree with them or not. I don’t know most people’s backstory and trust me when I tell you everyone has a story. Since I don’t know the hurts, struggles, or challenges a person may be dealing with that could be causing them to lash-out or be rude, the love I have for humanity allows me to forgive them and NOT repay evil with evil. The root of forgiveness is love.
When you are in a romantic relationship most of the things you do for your partner are driven by love or at least should be. Love causes us to always consider our partner and how our actions will make him/her feel. Years ago, I attended a Military Ball with my husband. I didn’t know anyone at the Ball other than my husband because we had been stationed at this particular military installation for a few months. Of course, my husband knew a few people because he worked with them.
So, he was off being introduced to Generals and Colonels while I was waiting patiently at the table with a group of strangers. Now don’t get me wrong they were nice people. A gentleman came over and asked me to dance. I smiled and said, “sure”. While on the dance floor my husband came over to get me but I was on the dance floor with another man. I might add, it was a slow dance.
On the way home that evening he shared it is inappropriate and disrespectful to him for his wife to be slow dancing with another man. Although innocent on my part, I didn’t realize that action would make my husband feel disrespected. I immediately apologized and have never did that again. Why? Because I love him and would never knowingly want him to feel anything negative when it comes to me.
You see LOVE considers others. We are told in scripture that:
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (I Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT))
Love is a beautiful thing. It’s an emotion that everyone wants to feel. Why do you think there are so many dating websites today? People want to be loved. It’s a natural human desire.
If you’re in a relationship and you aren’t sure if you’re in love with your partner. Here are 22 Signs You’re Falling in Love (from Cosmopolitan.com)
The only thing better than being in love is falling in love.
Everything feels new, you aren’t quite sure if it’s really love yet, and you start waiting to see who’s finally going to say it out loud first. It’s the best. Soak up every sickly-sweet minute of it.
1. You talk about things you’ll do together in the future, without realizing you’re talking about the future. It’s not weird to talk about that concert that’s in three months or the trip you want to take to the beach this summer around him, because he’ll be around to go with you.
2. When you say, “I miss you,” it’s because you really do miss him after only a day apart. It’s not just a cute thing to say, it’s a real ache that says he’s a part of your life now.
3. You can’t remember the last time you thought about your ex. Things with your guy now are so good you can’t be bothered with whatever’s in the past.
4. Things you usually hate seem OK — and even fun — if you’re doing them with him. Riding a roller coaster you’re terrified of? Fine, as long as he holds your hand and promises not to laugh at how you scream.
5. You’re comfortable with making little sacrifices for him. You wouldn’t put off your responsibilities for him, but if he’s sick and needs you to help take care of him instead of going to brunch one morning, you’re totally cool with that.
6. He’s the “something good” you think about when everything else is really rough. Work is driving you crazy, but at least you’ve got him to cheer you up when you get home.
7. You feel safe when you’re around him. It’s hard to describe this feeling, but it really is the best thing in the world. Like nothing bad can happen.
8. You’re comfortable enough around him to make bad jokes and be your fully weird self. You might’ve been trying to impress him before, but now you’re cool to hum around the kitchen and wear your pants tucked into your socks when he comes over.
9. You keep seeing things out in public that you know he’d love. Stuff you used to walk by every day suddenly has David’s name all over it.
10. He’s your person. When something really good or really bad happens, he’s who you go to first.
11. You’re not worried about “scaring him off.” You’re comfortable enough to cry in front of him or show him huge, slightly embarrassing collection of Beanie Babies (that you swear could be worth a fortune one day), because you feel secure that he’s not going anywhere at the drop of a hat.
12. Little things, like going to the grocery store, are better when he’s around. A walk down the cereal aisle can be a very romantic date if you’re with the right person.
13. He annoys the hell out of you, but you still want to be around him. “I love you, but I don’t like you right now,” is something you’re almost ready to say.
14. You don’t freak out if he doesn’t text back right away. All that “does he like me back” anxiety is gone, and you finally have enough chill to be OK with his slow texting.
15. When he’s sad, you’re genuinely sad too. You feel his pain and he feels yours.
16. You’re actually entertained by his cute AF childhood photos. And you actually like listening to his long, rambly stories. Just hanging out and talking about anything is fun.
17. You’d rather stay in and do nothing with him than go out. “Started staying in and going out less” is your new mantra, and it’s totally OK with you.
18. You want to show him all of your favorite things. Not because you want them to be his favorite things too, but because you want him to know you better than anyone else.
19. You have to restrain yourself from talking about him with your friends all the time. If you could you’d gush about this guy constantly. But out of respect for your friends and their sanity, you hold back (a little).
20. You’ve started thinking about introducing him to your family. Because you genuinely want to know how he fits in around them.
21. You regularly catch yourself doing deep dives on his Instagram. And the best part is you aren’t even scared of accidentally liking a photo because you’re past the point of feeling like you’ll freak him TF out if you do.
22. You want to do things you’ve already done again so he can be there with you this time. Time to take a return trip to the Grand Canyon so you can kiss while the sun goes down and not care how cute or gross you look — you’re in love, dammit! And you don’t care who knows.
(Smothers, Hannah, 2017, October 4, 22 Signs You’re Falling in Love. Retrieved from http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a58046/little-signs-youre-falling-in-love/)